This Is My Fight

One of my big struggles in life is asking for help, or telling people when I’m having a hard time. I like to keep it to myself or within my small network of close friends. I know so many people have struggles and mine seem so small so I hate to complain. BUT….when I had this chat with my best friend, she pointed out to me that I have a voice, I have a following, and my opening up and sharing my struggle, I could actually help someone else!! That hit home for me as one of my passions is helping other people. If my struggle inspires one person, then it’s worth it to get out of my comfort zone!!!

 

12670480_10153623073964576_5285153331516769287_nSo here we go…… ((this has been sitting in my drafts for a few weeks, hitting PUBLISH was hard haha))

 

My health has always been weird. I was the kid who could catch anything and especially if it was something weird! It was just accepted as that was my normal and I got use to being sick. But I also got use to the looks from people when they would hear I was sick again. It was never something I could control of course and no one WANTS to be sick, but people would look at you like “Again?!” That caused me to retreat a bit and hide when I was having problems! After my daughter was a year old, I encountered a doctor who made me retreat even more. I went in as I was tired, having bad headaches and just feeling run down all the time. She ran tests and came to the conclusion that I was fine other than a Vitamin D problem. Which I found weird since I walk an hour ever day outside AND play outside with my kids most the day. The doctor ignored it and said my not feeling well was all in my head! Come to find out 6 months later I actually had mono!!! But that experience left me very scared to go back for problems as I knew it was NOT in my head!

 

When my son was born,  I started having MORE problems. Stomach issues mostly but then I got a fever and it lasted a month. I figured it was just the flu since it was flu season! But a few weeks later, the fever was back! That time I went in to the doctor and more tests, along with an X-ray of my lungs (which were fine lol) showed nothing! After a few weeks the fever went away. But it came back over and over and over again! At one point the fever and flu symptoms lasted 5 weeks!!! More symptoms developed too so finally I was referred to a GI doctor. He thought I might have Crohns or Celiac so I had a colonoscopy (we won’t even go into the joy of have fun that was!!!). The revealed I had polyps on my colon so YAY, I now get these every 5 years hahaha. But no signs of other problems. I was told to go gluten free and given medication for possible Crohns. And I did ok!!

 

For 3 months I felt good, I still has a few small issues but felt much better!!! And then winter came….. My son is in kindergarten so brought home germs and we all got sick! Except their 24 hour bug knocked me down for almost a month! And at the end of that, I wasn’t paying attention to gluten or eating the right foods. Over the next 3 months I found my mood changed, I was tired all the time, my weight starting going up, my hair was falling out, my nails were breaking, I was feeling horrible most days, and I began having excruciating pains in my legs. I thought I was just having a vitamin problem, so I agreed to go get blood work done. But I was nervous as I hate when doctors say “You are fine” yet my nails were splitting down the middle and I had a few bald spots from hair loss haha.

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My new doctor actually listened, and it helped my husband went too as he is in the medical field! But the appointment turned a bit scary when he found a lump in my thyroid. I was sent to the hospital right away for an ultrasound, but we thought it was nothing and just routine!! That afternoon I got the call that I had a nodule (the official name for a lump haha) on my thyroid and I would need to get a biopsy done to make sure it wasn’t cancer. Well that was a bit scary!!! Luckily I am a big fan of research so I did find out that 80% of those are NOT cancer. Still, a needle in my throat is not fun!!!!

 

While I wait for the biopsy, I also found out I have Hashimoto’s, an autoimmune disease. It is where your body gets confused and thinks its fighting an infection when you are healthy. In this case, my body is attacking my thyroid which is why I have had so many crazy issues and for so long. No one was testing for that, so it’s been ongoing for years! There is no cure or medication for autoimmune diseases, the only way is to figure out what triggers them and try and avoid that at all costs.

 

I’m a personal trainer and nutritionist. I teach people to workout, balance their foods, and in return they will be healthy. But I do that and for me, my body is attaching itself. That was hard to wrap my head around!! How is it what I teach, won’t work for me?!? How can I continue teaching that, when I can’t follow it myself? Processing this took me a little time, especially the fact that I have to find the trigger and that will take awhile. No medication to feel better in a few days. Instead it could take weeks or months! Not to mention finding the RIGHT doctor who will help me find the triggers and treat those, instead of just waiting for my thyroid to be badly damaged beyond repair. All the things added up, and I didn’t handle it well. I took time to have a nice pity me party and dwell in the fact I have this and I’ll have these problems the rest of my life. But if you know me, then you know I’m a fighter!!!

 

While having my pity party, I turned on Pandora and the song that played was “Fight Song” and these lyrics really hit home with me!

 

“This is my fight song
Take back my life song
Prove I’m alright song
My power’s turned on
Starting right now I’ll be strong
I’ll play my fight song
And I don’t really care if nobody else believes
‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me”

 

“Take back my life…” and so I did! I began to research. I found a doctor that is known for helping people with my issues. I changed my diet to follow an Autoimmune Protocol. I read stories and tips from others with my condition, I reached out and talked to people, and I began to have hope. I know it’s going to be a long road and a lot of changes. Right now I’ve given up my beloved dairy and daily piece of dark chocolate, but my health matters!!! I’m realizing what I teach others to do, won’t work for me anymore, and I have to find that balance. I have to accept this as the new normal, but not let it change my life and my goals. I have a lot of fight in me, and I plan on showing it!

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Currently I feel really, REALLY bad most days of the week, and that’s hard BUT I know I’m doing what I can to feel better, and in time I will be back to my old self!!!

 

1 in 5 people have an autoimmune disease. If you are suffering , don’t be like me and keep it a secret! Reach out and ask for help! Fight for yourself and to get the support you need!! Don’t be afraid, be empowered that you have this and are going to FIGHT!

Dana

Think Before You Prospect

Think before you prospect people…

 

Stop-Sign-CropA lot of time, people will join a new business and start messaging/emailing every single person they know. And they get a bad response or no response! They also will look for the “big fish” which is those who are successful working at home and they try and get them to come join their new business. This doesn’t go over well! And it is also disrespectful and ruins the chance of them possibly supporting you in the future.

Sooooooooo…..What is the right and wrong way to prospect people?!?!

Well first off, I don’t prospect people! I share about my company and products and if someone is interested, I contact them! I work for a grocery store so my job is a bit different than others, but I know I personally HATE getting messages asking me to switch the job I LOVE for something brand new they have just started.

Most people who are successful with their jobs, are so because they LOVE it. It’s a deep deep love that goes beyond just getting paid. It’s often a love for the products, a love for the company, and love for their team. No amount of money is going to make them leave their “family” and many people find it very disrespectful to be asked to do so!

How do you prospect then?! Well first, you want to chat with people and see if the door might open. Ask how they are doing, what they have been up, how their job is going….connect with them! If they say they love their jobs and it’s going great, don’t prospect! That is the sign right there and it would be rude to not listen to what they just said! Instead say “That is GREAT! I just started a new job with my company and I’m hoping to have success like you do someday. Any tips you can share?” That leaves the door open so they know what you are doing, it doesn’t offend them, and it shows you listened and respect them.

6040612958007de8292363100e19a0c3If you are looking to contact someone about your job and they are NOT already working from home, you still want to approach them the right way! You do not want to instantly start asking them to buy from you. Instead, reconnect with them and see how they are doing. Chat about their kids, their job, their hobbies etc. Wait for the door to open to start sharing about your products. And pay attention to what they say. Some people will give you all the signs that now is NOT a good time to talk to them about your business, and if you pay attention then you may have a shot later on.

 

How you talk to people and approach them can make all the difference In this business so make sure you do it the RIGHT way!

Dana

Mom Boss: Tamyia Heard

I’m so excited for this week’s Mom Boss as its such an amazing and creative job…..owning a cupcake business!!! How fun is that?!?! I so wish I was a good baker because this sounds like an amazing job! Read Tamyia’s story and go check out her amazing creations!

 

12966745_597426407081928_1567820213_n“I am a mother of 4 and 2 step children. I started Twelve Gate Cupcakes 2 yrs ago just doing my kids cake/cupcakes for their birthdays. A year ago I decided to make it a full time business when I got fired from my corporate job while I was 5 mos pregnant. So I started making cakes for family/ extended family events which caught the taste buds of people i didn’t know. I feel in love with it just making people’s ideas come to life thru cake. Even tho we went from 2 income home to 1 for a while my business started to pick up. Since then I have started a blog and more vendor events. This as given more time to spend with my family and kids and still be able to do what I love. And my family support is amazing. I wouldn’t change it for the world. Twelve Gate Cupcakes is my baby #7 and I love it.”

 

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Follow Tamyia on Facebook at https://m.facebook.com/Twelvegatecupcakes/

Or send her an email at Twelvegatecupcakes@gmail.com

 

Dana

Running Out Of Time

Time is Precious!! I talk all the time about how busy I am, but that goes for pretty much every Mom out there!! As parents, we all struggle to do it all, have it all, and give our kids the best. But at the end of the day, its TOUGH!!!! I personally am a BIG fan of anything that saves me time as I can use those moments to be with my kids. Because after all, they only stay little for a short period of time.12049340_10153586377519576_4973795751872628558_n

One way I save time (and money!) is by cooking and freezing foods. I don’t know about you, but meal times at my house are crazy!!! Trying to cook elaborate meals with a toddler on my hip, a pre-schooler begging to go outside, and an almost 6 year old building forts does not make for much cook time. But I refuse to give my kids junk food as their health is very important to me. So what do I do??? Cook in bulk and freeze!!!

Finding time to cook in bulk can be tough, so often time I make extras of the meals we are having. For instance, I have muffins baking in the oven while pancakes are cooking on the stove. Or on a night we are having spaghetti, I make a HUGE batch of the sauce and use it also to make lasagna. You also have the option of just cooking everything on one day.

Here are some of the items I make and freeze.

 

Breakfast:

Muffins- I make 2-3 types of healthy muffins and usually 2 dozen of each and freeze them. It’s a lot easier to just double the portion size and make a ton at once than make them each week.

Chocolate Banana Muffins

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Pancakes- I make healthy pancakes from protein powder, eggs, bananas and oats. I make small sizes in a giant non stick skillet and freeze them

Smoothies- Frozen fruit and milk make for a great and quick breakfast! My kids favorite is banana and peanut butter. I always have frozen bananas in the freezer and its great for these

Lunch:

I do quick meals for Lunch such as PB crackers, PB & J, Cheese Quesadilla, Home Made Chicken Fingers, Smoothies, Grilled Cheese, etc

 

Dinner:

Spaghetti Sauce (I make 4 meals and freeze it)

Chicken Noodle Soup

Chili

Chicken Divan

Beef Stroganoff Sauce

Enchiladas

Baked Ziti

Lasagna

 

It takes a little preparation when you get started, but its well worth it to have an easy meal you can just pop in!

Dana