Autoimmune Diseases

A little over a year ago I got the news I had an autoimmune disease. The first things that went through my mind were confusion, shock, disappointment, panic, worry, the list goes on and on!  The more I learned, the more I worried! In my head, all day long, I had so many thoughts and all of them were worries. The more I worried, the more down I felt. One thing I learned really quick about autoimmune diseases is that many result in severe depression. Imagine waking up sick one day and learning you will never get better. It turns your whole life around and its very lonely because so few people know anything about these silent diseases. I look fine (a tab bit fluffier than before I got sick) on the outside, but on the inside many of my organs are struggling, my body is attacking itself, and each day is a silent battle.

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After having a few days where I had pity parties for myself, I decided one reason I have this is because I have a voice, and most times I’m not afraid to use it!!! This subject has been harder for me to share though. I like to present myself as being strong, positive, a go-getter….not someone who is sick and “weak”. I can’t change having this disease, but what I can do is be more open about it! I can use my struggles to bring awareness. I can encourage someone who felt despair upon getting diagnosed. I can push people to learn more to help their friends and family who struggle with autoimmune disease. I can share with people how your life might be harder, but you can still find joy!! I can remind people not to judge, as you never know how much pain someone might be in. I can use my voice and hopefully inspire at least one person!

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I’ve met so many people in the past year who also have major health issues, and the main thing we discuss is how lonely it is! I recently spoke to a young woman who got diagnosed 4 years ago and not a single member of her family asks how she is doing, knows what she has, or tries to help her. Unfortunately that is VERY common! I personally have been blessed with an amazing tribe! The moment I was diagnosed, my aunt was looking up what I had on google. My dad always encourages me, looks for options that might help me, and reminds me I can reach out to him at any moment! My best friends send me articles, encourage me, remind me not to overdo it, and notice the days I’m a little to quiet.  On the days where we feel very bad, the worse part is to be alone! If you know someone with an autoimmune disease, make sure to reach out to them! Even if its just to say “Hi” or “I’m praying for you”….just let them know they are NOT alone! Plus, when you are sick, tired, and depressed, you don’t feel like talking to people. If your friend or family member has a chronic illness, be the one to reach out to THEM!!! Nothing is worse than when you feel sick and overwhelmed and have a list of people YOU have to check in on….I know relationships are a two way street, but when someone is sick, don’t make them chase you down. Trust me on this one, it’s huge and so important!!

 

Other than being around for your friend, if you know someone with an autoimmune disease, you should also take the time to learn more about it!  It will show them you care, but it will also let you know what they are going through.  I’ve seen many people make hurtful comments about chronic diseases simply because they were to lazy to get on google and learn. Education is key! With that being said, I would love to share a little about autoimmune disease with you! If you have one, know someone who does, or just want to be more aware, there are tons of great resources online to learn! I personally think the best place and way to learn is by asking someone who has one! Even though you didn’t ask, I’m going to use my voice and share! Please share this with others, the more awareness, the better! It could reach someone who is feeling very alone right now.

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  • An autoimmune disease is where your body attacks it’s own cells. It cause your immune system to be jeopardized and thus easily susceptible to more infections. It’s a chronic illness, has no cure, and for many people, it’s a depressing and lonely disease that for many people gets worse over time.
  • There are over 100 different autoimmune diseases. Many have similar symptoms which makes them hard to diagnose. Some autoimmune disease actually cause you to get more.
  • Over 50 million people in the US have an autoimmune disease, and yet less than 13 percent of people know what an autoimmune disease is! Autoimmune diseases are one of the top killers of women under the age of 65!
  • Many autoimmune disease run in families. If someone in your family has one, learn everything you can because you could end up with it, or one of your kids! Early detection can save years of pain!
  • The average person has to visit 4 different doctors before finding one who takes autoimmune diseases seriously. Most are told it’s “all in your head” and for many people it takes 2-4 years before they are diagnosed….talk about depressing!
  • Autoimmune diseases are the 4th largest cause of disability for women in the United States.
  • Most autoimmune diseases are hereditary. You can’t catch it, cause yourself to get it, fake it, or have any say in how it works. It’s your body attacking itself and there is no medicine to stop it. Often times once it “breaks” something in you, you then get a medicine to repair what’s broken, but their is not a medicine to keep more things from getting broken.
  • The average person has an autoimmune disease for many years, they just aren’t aware until it gets really bad. Different things can cause it to cause problems, but the most common are things like an illness, change in hormones (pregnancy or menopause), extreme stress.
  • Autoimmune diseases don’t care your age, occupation, health, gender etc they just attack!
  • Many people with an autoimmune disease wake up one day feeling bad. They go to the doctor but they can’t figure pout what’s wrong. Then they keep feeling bad each day with no clue why. Having an autoimmune disease is literally waking up sick one day knowing you’ll never get better again.
  • Some people go into remission with their disease, in which for awhile your symptoms are not as bad. Other people never have a remission and stay in what we call a “flare up”. The problem is autoimmune diseases cause inflammation, inflammation causes damage to your organs, and many more serious issues I don’t like to discuss.
  • One of the hardest parts of an autoimmune disease it’s the side effects. They range from joint pain, depression, weight gain, hair loss, exhaustion, insomnia, fever, etc. There are hundreds of different symptoms and each person’s is different. For me personally, I had exhaustion, bruising on my body, high fevers, a weak immune system, headaches, hair loss, nails breaking, and weight gain.
  • Every person’s autoimmune disease is different. I’ve talked to women with the same condition as me who don’t get out of bed most days. I met one at the doctor who said she has to be on disability and has a live in nanny to help with her kids. I met another who knew it ran in her family, got tested early, and changed her lifestyle so she has never had an issue. Every person is different so make sure to ask how they feel and not go by what you read offline. One of my major issues is I get high fevers, I’ve yet to meet another person who has that problem haha.

 

After reading that, not only are you probably shocked but also a little scared for your friend/family member. Don’t be scared, be prepared! When you know the facts, it allows you to better help them! One of my first suggestions is find an naturopath doctor, functional medicine doctor or holistic doctor. Those types focus on how to get your body to stop attacking itself, and not just on the damage it causes. Plus, they actually listen! I’ve had the wonderful pleasure of learning most doctors do not listen as autoimmune diseases are not something they understand.  Next step is learn about nutrition! It plays a huge role and can help you with many of your symptoms! Also, find someone to talk to! Falling into depression is so common but if you have someone to lean on, it makes all the difference!

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Yes autoimmune diseases are something you have for life, but I think with the proper care, education, and mind set you will be ok. That is what I tell myself! I’ve been in a really bad flare up for months, but I know one day we’ll figure out how to stop it, and then I’ll have so many amazing tips to share with others! I also think this will allow me to show others that no matter what obstacles are thrown in your way, if you never give up, amazing things will eventually happen! Today is a good day for me, and I’ve learned to say THANK YOU for the good ones! No matter how few and far between they might be!

 

If you have an autoimmune disease, or know someone who does, please feel free to share any tips. Or if you need someone to talk to, I’m here!! This is hard to write and a very sensitive subject so kind words, prayers, support are always welcome!

 

Make sure to follow my blog as I will work hard on being more open about this! Have a blessed day!!

More Resources On Autoimmune Disease:

Autoimmune Mom

American Autoimmune

Health Line

10 Signs You Have An Autoimmune Disease

Molly’s Fund 

 

Dana

Stop Stomach Bugs With Activated Charcoal

The moment every parent dreads….the stomach bug!!! If your kids have not been in school or exposed to other kids much, you are lucky!! Nothing is worse than the horrible stomach bug, especially when your kids are little! My family has been very blessed in that my kids have mostly gotten sinus problems or random sickness that was NOT the stomach bug. It has really only hit my house 3 times in almost 7 years of being a Mom so that is really good! But as all parent’s know who have experienced it…one time is one time to many! But I’m excited to say I finally found a way to stop it in it’s tracks!! This is how you can stop Stomach Bugs With Activated Charcoal!!

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Let me start out by saying, kids get sick all the time! Especially when they are young as they don’t understand germs, washing their hands, covering their mouths, etc. Some people are born with an amazing immune system that can combat anything, but others get sick when they have those lovely germs rubbed on them. I talked to a few teachers and they all agreed that under 3rd grade, they constantly have kids out each week sick (One school in my area had over 75 middle school kids out with a stomach bug). They sneeze on each other, hug each other, share snacks and drinks, come to school sick, touch the same school supplies…it’s germ central! As a parent, you can try and boost your child’s immune system, but most the time the first few years of school are just rough. And for some parents, it’s year after that! My poor Mom did all she could to keep me healthy yet I would end up in the hospital from stomach bugs pretty often. So parent’s, if your kids are constantly getting sick….don’t beat yourself up! I know kids with super healthy parents and lifestyles who are sick all the time. I know kids who eat junk food at every meal and never get sick. Each child is different but after talking with multiple Mom’s, Teachers, Nurses, Registered Dietitian, and a Physicians Assistant the general conclusion is kid’s will get sick often when in elementary school!

Of course there are a few things you can do to help. Healthy eating and exercise is key! Avoid processed foods, foods high in sugar, and junk food. Fruits and vegetables are hard for kids sometimes but you can sneak them in smoothies, spaghetti sauce, and soups! My kids do a smoothie for breakfast, a sandwich, yogurt, and organic fruit snack for lunch, and popcorn and fruit when they get home from school. Along with healthy foods, you also can give kids probiotics which help boost their immune system. Here are a few helpful articles on probiotics, plus some good ones to pick.

Probiotics For Kids

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I personally also use an immune boosting essential oil blend. That has been such a huge game changer for my kids! For example, last December my oldest son was sick an entire month, and then passed it to my two younger kids. This December, my daughter got a stomach bug at the beginning of the month (Yay PreK Germs!) that lasted two days….and that was it!!!! We survived December with just that one tiny bug, and thanks to the immune boosting oils, it didn’t go to my boys! Parent’s of multiple kids, you know how hard it is NOT to spread germs from one kid to the other haha, so this was a big accomplishment! Earlier this month, my husband got strep (he works at a hospital so comes in contact with many germs!) We didn’t realize it was strep and by the time he got diagnosed, but the boys got it too! I rubbed the essential oil on myself and my daughter (hers is diluted!) plus had it going in all our diffusers. Now, I need to mention in case you don’t follow my blog often, I have an autoimmune disease. I also found out recently my immune system is pretty much not working at all (Very low sIgA) so of course I just assumed I would be getting the strep too….NOPE!!! My daughter and I both managed to not get it!! Thanks to the power of an immune boosting essential oil!

I also recently discovered another great home remedy….activated charcoal! I had heard in the past that you can Stop Stomach Bugs With Activated Charcoal, but also that it was a good detox in case I ate gluten. I bought it, then never ended up using it! I finally got a chance though! My oldest son came down with a high fever, and said he felt very tired. He rested all day, went to bed early, and I hoped he would feel better the next day. NOPE! About 30 minutes after going to bed, he came downstairs and threw up. Now, panic mode set in for me as he had a 103/104 fever all day and with throwing up, he wouldn’t be able to keep the medicine down! After he threw up the second time about 30 minutes later, I started looking up “at home remedies for the stomach bug” and what I came across was the activated charcoal. I read a ton of reviews from others who had used it, plus called my husband to have him ask about it (one of the small benefits of him working at the hospital at that time). Once I finally figured out a dosage, I decided to give it a try as Will had thrown up 5 times in less than 2 hours. I was sure he would throw it up (I mixed it with water and ice) since he hadn’t stopped getting sick….but an hour passed and he kept it down! And his fever was lowering!! I sent him to bed still doubtful and thinking we would be up soon with another trip to the bathroom, but I was wrong! He slept good the entire night and was so excited he didn’t throw up again, he came bounding in my room at 6am to say he wasn’t sick anymore!

I also took some myself as my stomach began to feel queasy…I’m not sure if I was getting the bug, or just lack of sleep and nerves from him being so sick. But after a day I felt better so I was able to Stop Stomach Bugs With Activated Charcoal in myself and my son! Plus thanks to my essential oil immune booster, neither of my other kids got it. Again, Mom’s of multiple children you know how rare that is haha. My 2 year old even drank out of big big brothers cup!! I will definitely be keeping it on hand for the future as it stops that stomach bug right in it’s tracks! Activated charcoal works for stomach bugs because it adsorbs the bacteria responsible for the bug, helping you to then treat it and hopefully prevent it from spreading…but don’t just take my word on it, look it up and you’ll see this is a must have item! (100% grape juice is a good prevention method for the stomach bug as the acid in it coats the bag stomach bacteria…prevention though, it won’t work if you are already throwing up).

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Those are my tips on stopping yourself from getting a stomach bug, or what to do help once it starts! Remember kids get sick, so Mom’s, it’s not your fault!! Just do the best you can, try a few different things, and when in doubt, ask your doctor for tips on boosting their immune systems!

 

*This is not medical advice, just sharing things that have worked for me after consulting our own doctors. Always check with a medical provider first before giving yourself or children any supplements, or holistic medicine*

 

 

 

 

Dana

I Choose ME!

68.5% of people are not enjoying their jobs

76% of people are living paycheck to paycheck

68% of people do not have a retirement fund

80% of people have some type of debt

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Recently I was talking to a few friends about saving for our kids college, and I was surprised when they said they hadn’t started yet! The more we chatted, the more I learned that they reason they hadn’t started, was because they couldn’t afford it! The scary thing is, they are not alone!! And it’s not because they spend tons of money on frivolous things, it’s because so many people are living paycheck to paycheck and praying for a raise or promotion!

 

We have to get out of that mindset though of waiting and praying for change! I’m a firm believe in God providing, but I also believe he gave us skills and brains and wants us to use them. Instead of waiting, choose to promote yourself! Choose to invest in yourself. Choose to believe YOU can make it happen.

 

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A few years ago, I did just that! My husband and I were living paycheck to paycheck and with two young kids, I would be spending an arm and leg putting them in daycare so I could return to work. I did something different than most people. I chose ME! I chose to believe I could be successful working from home. I chose to be my own boss. I chose to put my future and my families, in my own hands!!

 

Yes its hard, but I don’t worry about losing my job each day. I don’t feel bad when I have to call out due to a sick kid. I don’t worry about missing out on school activities or milestones with my kids. I choose to believe in myself and that if I want it bad enough, I can make it happen!!!

 

Life is too short to wait for that promotion, choose to promote yourself! Choose to be your own boss. Choose to have a job you love. I choose me!!! Do you???

 

 

Dana

How To Be A Social Media Success

Last week I talked about the do and do not’s of social media, and that brought in a load of questions!!! So today I’m going to elaborate more on how to have success on social media!

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First lets talk about your profile. People who are interested in working with you, are going to research you!! When they go to your page, you want them to see someone that is successful, happy, positive, and would be a great mentor. The first thing they see is your profile pictures and cover picture. Keep it professional, clean, and friendly. Ask a photographer for some head shots, or if you can’t afford that, ask a friend to do it! Aim to do it outside if you can as the outdoor lighting is great and you don’t have distraction in the background of your picture.  I personally use a family photo for mine, but you can do one of just you if you prefer! I just think my kids are so adorable that helps people want to work with me 😉 (KIDDING!!) Remember with your pictures of yourself, you want people to chose you!!!! If someone approaches me selling makeup, but their pictures of themselves are all without makeup, I’m going to wonder if they truly love the product. People are going to join your company because of YOU, and their belief in YOU and your success. And if you don’t have success yet, don’t lie, but show people you are working hard to get there!

 

Next let’s talk about what to do on Facebook. Scrolling through your newsfeed is fine when you have time to kill, but it will NOT build your business! You need to engage with people and meet new people! I suggest going through your friends list and re-connecting with at least 7 people each week. Do NOT message them about your business! Simply try and catch up and get to know them better. If they ask what you are up to, share, but don’t sell!!! If they are interested in your business, they will ask!! Build relationships, people want to work with those they trust!! Join groups. Not to talk about your business, but to engage with people and meet new people! You can find tons of fun groups in your area to join!

 

11141180_10153078114179576_3521282344485357203_nStop scrolling through Facebook! If you are a busy Mom like me, you have very limited time each day to work and Facebook is a distraction if not used correctly! The first thing I do when I get online is check my messages and notifications and answer those. Then I post in my private groups, check in on business partners and customers, and then see what I need to do to grow my business. I keep a list of what I need to do each day by my computer. For example, three days a week I work on blog articles.  Two days a week I participate in network parties for blogs. Four days a week I work on growing my business. Keeping a list of what needs to be done, helps me work faster and more efficiently.  I save the scrolling through Facebook for when I do my morning cardio, as it is not a beneficial way to grow my business.

 

 

 

 

Growing your reach is important! Some people chose to use Facebook, others chose to meet people face to face. Either is fine, but to be successful you need to be growing your reach of people every week! Using a facebook business page is a great tool also, but keep in mind many times you have to pay to promote those. Find free groups to join, or pages you can network on. Find local Mom groups in your area! You have tons of options, but you need to work at it each week!!! If you aren’t talking to people, then your business isn’t growing!

 

11Get your product and company out there, without annoying people!!! Facebook does not show every post to every person, so when you start a new business, it is hard to let everyone know about it! You can contact people directly to let them know and see if they will support you, but remember, don’t spam them!! Sharing about your new business on Facebook is fine, but remember to share why you are excited about it, and don’t be a sales person! Be real, be true, and be YOU! When you first start your business, you do need to post a lot about it. On average, I recommend once a day IFFFFFFFF you are active on social media.

 

 

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Remember to make the RIGHT type of posts on social media. You don’t want to drive people away so make sure you never over post. The average posts you do should tie in to how many friends you have. If you have less than 400, one post a day. If you have around 1000, 2 posts a day. If you have over 1000, 3 posts etc. Too much posting will make facebook think you are spamming people (notice how if you post 10 times a day you get no like or comments? That is because they stop showing your posts to your friends), and it annoys people so they unfollow you. When that happens they NEVER see anymore of your posts!

You can post your items without ever selling them! Remember sales is hard, but being a SHARESPERSON is easy!! Just share what you love about your product and company. Leave the money and sales out of it! People will trust you for sharing what you love and being honest. And have fun with your posts!!!! If you are bored and hating it, people can tell!! Make sure to also use your own personal pictures. Copying other people’s posts is not a good idea. Using stock photos is not a good idea. The best posts include a personal picture. You also want to save your business posts for the busiest time on social media, which is after 8pm!

 

One important thing to know about Facebook, the more people who engage with you on your posts, the more people who will see it!!! Tag your friends if you know they won’t mind, or ask them to help by commenting and liking. Each time someone comments, make sure you reply to them too. The more comments and likes you have, the more Facebook thinks your post is important so they will show it to more people!

 

 

At the end of the day, remember that being successful is about balance, hard work, fun, and dedication. When I first started in direct sales over 3 years ago, I didn’t make hardly anything my first paycheck!!!! That company had a horrible approach and I quit within 6 months as I was not having fun! This year I joined a new company and I knew that to be successful I had to have balance, hard work, fun and dedication. You have to be willing to work every single day, but you can’t let it consume you!! And never give up, as your dreams are worth chasing!!!

 

 

 

 

 

Dana

Do And Do NOT Of Social Media

Many people are using Facebook to run their businesses these days, and there is a right and wrong way to do it! I’ll share a few things you want to do….and a few things you want to avoid. Facebook is a great tool, when used correctly!

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  1. Professional Profile Picture- Your picture is the first thing people see, you want it to be you, be real, and look as professional as possible. If you can’t afford head shots, get a friend to take some photos of you. Try to do it outside as the lighting is best. Focus on just your face, with no distractions. Its ok to wear a shirt or hat with your company name on it, but you want the picture to be you!
    1. Do NOT make your profile picture the product you promote, an unflattering picture, or quotes. People want to get to know you, and on social media, the first impression is important!
  2. Drama Free Is The Way To Be- Yes we all have problems and issues and drama, but social media is NOT the place to talk about it. Especially if you use that for your business. Many times you are networking and meeting new people, and they don’t want to know about your drama. That’s quick way for them to decide you are not the person to do business with. If you have drama, keep it quiet with close friends, not in public!
  3. Keep Your Page About You- People do not want to see you selling a product 24/7….even if it’s the best product in the world! You need to balance! I recommend 90% of your posts be about you, and only 10% about your business.
  4. Use Your Name- You want people to come to you for help with their needs so it’s important to brand yourself, and not just promote a product. Because of this, do not put your company name in your Profile Name, or use a fake name. It confuses people and makes it hard for them to find you. Be real, be you, and remember you and your product are not the same person.
  5. Keep It Fun- People Need to be engaging with you in order to keep seeing your posts. Share fun activities with your friends, share crafts you are doing, or share motivational quotes. The more people engage with you, the more they will see your posts!
  6. Avoid Selling- Facebook is for keeping in touch with people, not making millions. If you want to share a product you love, that’s great!!! But don’t use it to spam people asking them to buy from you, or posting asking people to buy stuff. The key is to share, not sell.
  7. Get To Know People- If you meet a new friend online, do NOT try to sell them your products. Instead, ask them what they do, what their hobbies are, what they enjoy….get to know them! If you immediately ask them to buy from you, they will most likely un-friend you and that door is slammed shut. But if you get to know them, and later down the road find they aren’t interested, they may refer friends to you! I personally send tons of friends to other business owners! I know my job isn’t for everyone, and that’s ok so I find out their interested, and send them to a job that might be a good fit.
  8. Do not OVER post! Balance how many times you post a day based on how many friends you have. If you have less than 300 friends on social media, only post once a day. If you have around 1,000 you could post about 3 times a day. The reason is, too many posts makes facebook think you are spamming people and they will stop showing their posts to them. Plus, no one wants to see 10 posts from you in one day, even if they really really like you 😉
  9. Don’t share articles, photos, videos etc if you are using your page for you business. Keep it professional. Those funny quotes are cute, but too many of them annoy people and confuse them as to what the purpose is. Make sure people know your page is about you, your family, and your business.
  10. Final Tip- Support Those Who Support You- This is HUGE in home based businesses!!! I remember those who supported me when I first got started, and you will see that those are the people I share the most on this page and on my Facebook Page. They supported me, so I will do everything I can to help them! Those who constantly ask me to buy products or promote their business yet have NEVER done anything to support me….usually do not get my help. I know that’s harsh, but it’s the truth in this business. All it takes is sharing someone’s post about their business, taking a moment to learn more about them, and even refer friends if the products aren’t for you. Showing support can make the difference between someone being successful, and someone feeling alone and giving up. So remember, always always always help those that you can and especially those who have helped you!

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Dana