Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, things just don’t go according to plan. That’s been my life for 2018 ha!! I had so many great plans of things I wanted to accomplish, goals I set, programs I would create…..and none happened! Now September is around the corner and things are finally slowing down. For many people, they would just write off the rest of the year and prefer to start fresh, but for me, I think every single day is a fresh start!! Instead of dwelling on what doesn’t go right, I like to look at what I can change to make things better! Sometimes you need to have help in that department, this was a lesson I learned with the chaos that has been 2018.
To start the year off with a bang, my husband got accepted into Nurse Practitioner school at one of the best schools in the US. That is great news, but we hadn’t expected him to get in so quickly as he had just applied. That was a bit scary for me as it meant he would be gone Monday-Friday all day the school is an hour away….more if you hit Atlanta’s lovely traffic. The plan was he would work part time on the weekends in order to keep our insurance. One positive in all that was thanks to my job, he didn’t need to work full time nor worry about child care as my schedule is very flexible but provides a full time income! Right as we were getting use to this idea of how things would change BIG time, he lost his job!! It was a horrible few weeks, but again, a blessing was my job and the income covered us while he searched for the perfect new job. That took a bit longer than expected as he wanted to make sure where ever he worked, they would be ok with his school schedule as it changes constantly. He finally found the perfect job…..at the hospital across from his school!! They would allow him to come in whenever he got off from class. This allowed him not to have to work on the weekends. For the first time in over 8 years, he now has the weekends off for family time! See, when you look hard enough, you can find something to be thankful for haha!
The new schedule was hard though. His first few weeks he left early in the morning and didn’t get back til bedtime thanks to the joys of traffic. Once he got on his normal schedule, he was home in the morning but not back til midnight! Of course as soon as we adjusted to that, he started school so there went seeing him at all! I don’t know about you, but I like having things stay the same and 4 different schedules in the span of 2 months was HARD! Luckily the kids got out of school a few weeks later so I wasn’t have to deal with the joys of dinner, homework, bath and bed all by myself anymore. Summer did present a new challenge though as keeping all 3 kids busy and happy wore me down and my issues with my autoimmune diseases got worse. Needless to say, Mom’s don’t get sick days though so summer was long……very very long. And the health issues, that’s a whole other story in itself lol. Autoimmune diseases do so much damage and for most people, once you get one, multiple others follow. The hunt right now is for what else is going wrong and how to stop it before more damage is done. A few of my organs are suffering right now so hopefully its a quick find!
School just started back so now I’m hoping things will slow down a bit and I can adjust to this new schedule! I ended up needing a minor procedure though this month and that pretty much knocked me down for 2 weeks. I woke up and noticed August was almost over HA! I always have the best luck so a Monday check up ended up keeping me at the doctor for HOURS for more tests. Luckily the very scary one (another lump) came back fine!! Celebrate all the good stuff is an important lesson I have learned the past few months!
Parenting is tough and this year has taught me all you single parents out there, y’all are superheros! I have to do dinner and homework 5 nights a week, but some of you do it 7! I tip my hat to you! Add in major health problems and honestly my Doctor doesn’t even know how I manage it all. I saw a good quote the other day though that said “Someone said to me: “I don’t know how you do it all”….I replied “I wasn’t given a choice” and that describes how I manage! I wasn’t given a choice with these health issues, but how I react to them, now that is my choice. Every day I wake up and I fight. I try every holistic approach out there, I do research over and over, and I’m learning to rest now too. Some days are very hard, and others are wonderful. My biggest lesson from this journey is treasure those wonderful days and even on the hard ones, smile! It can be hard but your smile can help someone else going thru a rough time to stay encouraged.
Well, that has been what has been going on in my life! I would love to hear tips on managing things without your spouse, especially dinner and homework ha! I hope to be a lot more active on the blog now that things are slowing down…..keyword there is hopeful