Motivation

motivation

noun mo·ti·va·tion \ˌmō-tə-ˈvā-shən\
1. a :  the act or process of motivating Some students need motivation to help them through school.

motivating:  to provide with a motive :  impel questions that excite and motivate youth She was motivated by a desire to help children.

b: the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.

Motivation is so incredibly important and is necessary in life to reach certain goals, and yet it seems some people have it and some people don’t!

Why is that?

How do you stay motivated?

Motivation

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For me personally, I’ve always been pretty good at motivating myself, but the truth is I usually have a reward for myself at the end! That helps me stay on track, but for others they might need a different way to motivate themselves. They may need a friend to check in and push them or a detailed plan on what happens when they reach their goal.

Each person is different, so one of my best tips is to find what motivates YOU!! The same thing does not work for everyone, but once you find what works for you, it will help you stay motivated and reach your goals. No matter if they are career related, education related, health related….motivation is needed for everything. And as a parent, it’s something you also want to teach your kids. Here are some of my best tips on staying motivated

1. Write down your goals. Goals and motivation go hand in hand. If you write them down, you can look at them over and over when you lose your motivation.

2. Tell your goals to a friend and ask them to help hold you accountable. You are 78% more likely to stick to your goal if you tell others about it. Plus they can call you out if you lose your motivation.

3. Write down how your life will be better when you hit your goals. This was big for me! If I found success working from home, my kids could take their first ever family vacation! Or do extra coricullar activities! That’s pushed me as it was things my kids would be able to do if I stayed motivated.

4. Make a weekly plan on how to hit your goals. Break down what you need to do, and it helps keep you on track. I make a plan every Sunday night.

5. Reward yourself along the journey. When I hit small goals, I give myself a reward.  For example we went on a fun animal Safari we never could have afforded before I started working from home…that was my reward for a job well done.

6. Watch motivational videos from others on a similar journey to yours. I love seeing other people on the same journey as me, and finding out how THEY were able to stay motivated. It also inspires me when I hear of people who have the odds stacked against them, still able to succeed. It motivates me by reminding me that if they could do it, so can I!

7. Ask others to support your goals, and help remind you of them. Involve all your friends and family. The more people who know about your goal, the more to help keep you on track! They can remind you it’s worth it, and why this is so important to you.

8. Lead by example. As a parent, I won’t let my kid quit no matter how hard things get…so I set an example and don’t quit myself either. Yes it’s hard, life is hard, but our kids learn from watching us and one of the best life lessons we can teach is not to quit when things get hard!

9. Take a break…not a month break,  but I always take a day or two off where I do nothing but recharge and have time for me. You don’t want to exhaust yourself so you need to have time off! Just don’t make it too long as it can be hard to start again.

10. Believe in yourself. No matter how hard it gets,  you deserve to succeed and you can if you keep going and don’t quit. Believing you can reach your goals is one of the best ways to motivate yourself.

And never ever quit!!! That sets you farther back from where you started and sets you up for a cycle of quitting things when they get hard! Stick with it, ask others for help, and try and find new ways to motivate yourself, Your goals are worth all the hard work!

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Dana

Does Parenting Get Easier?

As a tired Mom of three kids, the most common thing people say to me is “It will get easier”. But does it? Does parenting get easier? Because with each stage, comes new challenges! When I had my first child, people use to say “it gets easier when he sleeps through the night” When he was one and into everything, they said “it gets easier when he’s more independent” When he got more independent, I heard “it gets easier when he’s in school”

The truth is, parenting never gets easier, it just changes over time to different stages!! I never knew I would be so paranoid the first few days my son was at school. And when my daughter started school I figured that one would be easier since it was my second time around…NOPE! I had to rush out of there before she saw my tears.

Does Parenting Get Easier?

Does Parenting Get Easier?It doesn’t get easier, and I’ve found myself no longer caring about it getting easier. Instead I focus on how at each stage, they become more amazing!!! Parenting is not meant to be easy. We are shaping someone’s life…that is hard work! They are finding their own personalities along the way and testing us is part of how they grow. It’s truly amazing that these little kids, are the future of the world, and we as parents play a part in that! They all have so many different qualities too, as a Mom of 3, I have learned to stop looking for it to get easier, and instead focus on every precious moment as they fly by so fast! Especially focus on their good qualities as they all have so many!

  • My 7 year old is a creator and can build anything!
  • My 5 year old has a great memory and loves to dress up and perform!
  • My 3 year old loves everyone he meets, but especially animals…even snakes!!

 

I’ve learned parenting doesn’t get easier but with each stage there are hard things but also so much JOY!! Especially when their little personalities begin to show and you see the amazing people they are going to be.

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They love without worrying about being hurt.

 

They trust us 100% percent.

 

They don’t believe bad people exist in the world.

 

Every person they meet is their friend, no matter they status, race, gender etc.

 

They are pure, and we get to help shape them!

 

Yes parenting is hard, but hold on Momma as they grow up way to fast and before you know it, you created an adult who can change the world!

Dana

All Natural Bug Repellent

Summer is here and it’s my favorite time of the year!! My 3 kids can spend all day everyday outside and I’m fine with that! As a kid, I did the same and I think kids learn so much about entertaining themselves…and developing a love for nature. I plant myself on our awesome porch, and my kids play for hours. It’s great!! Except one problem…BUGS!!! I’m one of those people that the moment I go outside….the bugs flock to me! It started when I was a kid, we tried everything possible but I always got bit! I did the bracelets, the sprays, the candles…you name it but nothing worked and I got eaten alive. It’s miserable! And nothing is worse than those stinky sprays!! You feel like you need to shower after as they smell so bad, are sticky, and are really bad for you too!!

All Natural Bug Repellent
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What to do, what to do, what to do???

I looked online for natural ways to keep bugs away, and the number one too was to use essential oils! In fact doctors say it’s a MUCH better option than the bug sprays with Deet in them!! So I of course got myself an essential oil bug spray….it works amazing!!!! I decided to take It to another level though, and looked into making my own, all natural, keep bugs away candles. And they work great!! Best part is it’s so easy to do, affordable, and you can use them over and over again! And it’s a fun craft your kids can do with you ( just don’t let them handle the oils! My daughter loved putting the lemons and limes in for me!)

Supplies:

All Natural Bug Repellent

  • Mason Jars (Or other type glass jars)
  • Lemons
  • Limes
  • Rosemary
  • Floating Candles
  • Water
  • Essential oils (I use lemon, Lavender, Tea Tree Oil, and Cedarwood)

Directions:
Slice up the lemons and limes. Put a few of each in the jars. Next add in the rosemary. I used one or two sprigs per jar. Next, fill 3/4 of the way to the top. Next add 10 drops of each essential oil.  Gently place your candle in and your ready to use!!! Keep the tops for the jars and you can save it and use it over and over!

All Natural Bug Repellent

Dana

Bless This Mess

Before having kids, I felt I led a very busy life! I usually worked more than one job, and if I wasn’t working, then I was also taking college classes. My schedule was crazy and I remember going months without a day off. I thought I was the busiest person in the world. And then I had kids!! Now my favorite moto is Bless this mess as that is what my life is most days!

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Bless This Mess

It’s so funny how your life changes in so many different ways when you have kids! Gone where the days of working two jobs, now I had one job…MOM! And that one was a lot of work!! I added in 2 more kids, a college degree, and working from home. The schedule I thought was busy before having kids, looks like a vacation to my schedule now haha! On top of all I do as a Mom and owning a business, I also suffer from an autoimmune disease which causes me to be sick often, and exhausted daily. So how do Mom’s like myself balance everything??? This is a question I get daily!

 

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  1. I’m a big list maker! I do this every week and it helps me look at what is on the list and decide what really needs to get done, and what is just a “want”. The “wants” normally keep getting pushed back on the list as I have learned to focus on the most important items.
  2. Plug in to self development and training. As a work from home Mom, it can be hard to stay motivated! I have a great team of people I work with and we do multiple training’s a week. This helps me stay on track, plus I keep an accountability sheet to log my hours of work each week. As a work from home Mom, sometimes you can find the whole week has gone by and you haven’t actually “worked”…it’s easy to do with as busy as Mom’s are!
  3. Ask for help! Before my autoimmune disease, I use to handle everything. Since then I have learned to ask my husband for help more. I’ve learned it’s ok to have a babysitter sometimes! I’ve learned I don’t have to do it all myself! Now my husband and I split the chorus around the house, which is a huge help for me!
  4. Learn to say NO! This is a big one for me. When I get asked to do something, my response is usually “Yes” and now, I have learned if I am tired, have too much going on, or just don’t want to, it’s ok to say “NO”!! Especially with an autoimmune disease. Most people have no clue what that is, how it effects me, or how severe it can get! I’ve learned I don’t need to explain myself, if I’m too tired, overwhelmed, or know something would be too much for me, I know say NO! Sure some people get mad, but at the end of the day my health comes at the top of my priority list as my kiddos need a healthy Mom!
  5.  Focus on what you can control. So many things in life are out of our control, and I have learned to dump those things in a file cabinet in my brain, close it, and let it go! If you can’t control it, don’t let it control you! Instead focus on the things in your life and business you do have control over! It’s a freeing feeling to know what you can control!
  6. Make time for fun! I’m very bad at this as I give 100% and then have little left for me. I’m learning to have a day where I don’t leave the house. Pull out a good book! Go do something I really enjoy. Make time for fun! Life is too short! I recently added on to my back porch and have a huge patio where I love to sit and read while my kids play outside. Normally I would use that time for work, which I still do some, but I also have one day where I just do what I want (within limit of course since I have 3 kids).
  7. Have a supportive tribe! This is so important I found! You need people who don’t judge you, believe in you, and will support you no matter what you are going through! I love knowing I have people I can go to for anything and they will be there for me. It’s a blessing to have wonderful friends and if you have toxic ones, cut those suckers out ASAP!

 

Those are just a few of my tips on how I manage life with being a busy Mom and business woman. I think the main key is balance! You never want to be too busy that you forget to have a life, but you also want to reach your goals!! It’s a process no one has perfected, and most people keep adjusting! I know my schedule is constantly changing…and with 3 kids home all summer it will change again. But I wouldn’t trade this crazy life for anything! Bless this mess!

Dana

Paleo Cupcakes

When I went paleo, the hardest part for me was the lack of dessert! I can eat grilled chicken and veggies all day long…as long as at the end of the day I get a small dessert. It’s all about moderation after all! So I began hunting for a good dessert. The problem was, many paleo recipes require strange ingredients you have no clue where to buy, or they take a lot of time to make. OR….they taste really gross haha. After hunting around, I finally found a good one! It’s a lemon paleo cupcake!! It easy to make, uses normal ingredients, and you can make a lot and freeze them (anything I can freeze and have later is a big winner in my book!) My favorite way to have these is with strawberries! It reminds me a lot of strawberry shortcake!

 

Give them a try and let me know what you think!!

Paleo Cupcakes

Ingredients

  • 1 Cup Coconut Flour ( I don’t recommend substituting this, I tried and it did not turn out well!)
  • 1 Teaspoon Baking Soda
  • 1/2 Teaspoon Salt
  • 8 Eggs
  • 1 Cup Honey (I like to melt it a little, makes it mix better!)
  • ½ Cup Melted Coconut Oil
  • Juice Of Two Lemons
  • 1 Teaspoon Vanilla Extract

Directions

  1. Preheat the over to 350 degrees.
  2. Mix the flour, baking soda, and salt together.
  3. Combine the oil, honey, vanilla, eggs, and lemon juice in a bowl using a hand mixer.
  4. Slowly add the liquid to the flour mixture. Keep mixing until all the clumps are gone. You may have to turn the mixer up and it will be thick.
  5. Spray a muffin pan with coconut oil ( I did not have good results using cupcake liners!)
  6. Fill the tins half way full with the mixture.
  7. Cook for approximately 20 minutes, check, and then cook for longer. The muffins should turn dark on the top when finished.

 

These freeze really well and are wonderful served with strawberries! Perfect healthy treat for the summer!

Dana