Does Parenting Get Easier?

As a tired Mom of three kids, the most common thing people say to me is “It will get easier”. But does it? Does parenting get easier? Because with each stage, comes new challenges! When I had my first child, people use to say “it gets easier when he sleeps through the night” When he was one and into everything, they said “it gets easier when he’s more independent” When he got more independent, I heard “it gets easier when he’s in school”

The truth is, parenting never gets easier, it just changes over time to different stages!! I never knew I would be so paranoid the first few days my son was at school. And when my daughter started school I figured that one would be easier since it was my second time around…NOPE! I had to rush out of there before she saw my tears.

Does Parenting Get Easier?

Does Parenting Get Easier?It doesn’t get easier, and I’ve found myself no longer caring about it getting easier. Instead I focus on how at each stage, they become more amazing!!! Parenting is not meant to be easy. We are shaping someone’s life…that is hard work! They are finding their own personalities along the way and testing us is part of how they grow. It’s truly amazing that these little kids, are the future of the world, and we as parents play a part in that! They all have so many different qualities too, as a Mom of 3, I have learned to stop looking for it to get easier, and instead focus on every precious moment as they fly by so fast! Especially focus on their good qualities as they all have so many!

  • My 7 year old is a creator and can build anything!
  • My 5 year old has a great memory and loves to dress up and perform!
  • My 3 year old loves everyone he meets, but especially animals…even snakes!!

 

I’ve learned parenting doesn’t get easier but with each stage there are hard things but also so much JOY!! Especially when their little personalities begin to show and you see the amazing people they are going to be.

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They love without worrying about being hurt.

 

They trust us 100% percent.

 

They don’t believe bad people exist in the world.

 

Every person they meet is their friend, no matter they status, race, gender etc.

 

They are pure, and we get to help shape them!

 

Yes parenting is hard, but hold on Momma as they grow up way to fast and before you know it, you created an adult who can change the world!

Dana

All Natural Bug Repellent

Summer is here and it’s my favorite time of the year!! My 3 kids can spend all day everyday outside and I’m fine with that! As a kid, I did the same and I think kids learn so much about entertaining themselves…and developing a love for nature. I plant myself on our awesome porch, and my kids play for hours. It’s great!! Except one problem…BUGS!!! I’m one of those people that the moment I go outside….the bugs flock to me! It started when I was a kid, we tried everything possible but I always got bit! I did the bracelets, the sprays, the candles…you name it but nothing worked and I got eaten alive. It’s miserable! And nothing is worse than those stinky sprays!! You feel like you need to shower after as they smell so bad, are sticky, and are really bad for you too!!

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What to do, what to do, what to do???

I looked online for natural ways to keep bugs away, and the number one too was to use essential oils! In fact doctors say it’s a MUCH better option than the bug sprays with Deet in them!! So I of course got myself an essential oil bug spray….it works amazing!!!! I decided to take It to another level though, and looked into making my own, all natural, keep bugs away candles. And they work great!! Best part is it’s so easy to do, affordable, and you can use them over and over again! And it’s a fun craft your kids can do with you ( just don’t let them handle the oils! My daughter loved putting the lemons and limes in for me!)

Supplies:

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  • Mason Jars (Or other type glass jars)
  • Lemons
  • Limes
  • Rosemary
  • Floating Candles
  • Water
  • Essential oils (I use lemon, Lavender, Tea Tree Oil, and Cedarwood)

Directions:
Slice up the lemons and limes. Put a few of each in the jars. Next add in the rosemary. I used one or two sprigs per jar. Next, fill 3/4 of the way to the top. Next add 10 drops of each essential oil.  Gently place your candle in and your ready to use!!! Keep the tops for the jars and you can save it and use it over and over!

All Natural Bug Repellent

Dana

Stop Being A Quitter

Every day I see a new friend start a work from home job, and before long….they quit! Why??? Starting a business is a huge risk, it’s stressful, it costs money, and it puts your reputation in jeopardy. Why would you do all that and then just quit? I’ll explain some things I’ve learned after being in the work from home industry for over 5 years (and once being one of those quitters).

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The number one reason people quit work from home jobs is because they didn’t put in the work. That’s a shocker right? But it’s true! Work from home jobs require you to be the boss and make work time every day, and most people are just not motivated enough! If they are tired, busy, etc then they put their work aside and before long a whole montj goes by and they did nothing! Problem is, most people then blame the company and hop along to another job, instead of just putting in the work needed.

 

The average person quits a work from home job in the first 90 days of starting it. The most common reason is they didn’t see the income they wanted. And yet the average person working from home works an hour of 1 to 2 hours a day. Hmmmm, so another reason people quit is unrealistic expectations! If you work 10 hours a week, at minimum wage, your income for the week should be approximately $70 Per week. Or $280 for a month. Yet most people work way less hours and want way more income! Unrealistic, you have to put in work to get paid.

 

Work from home jobs are also a lot harder. If they were easy and paid millions right away, then everyone would do them! But the truth is they are much harder! They take time, a good work ethic, and a no quit attitude! Something many people lack nowadays. Most successful businesses take an average of 5 years to build. In the scheme of working full time from when you are 22 to 65 (average age of retirement), that’s 48 years!! I don’t know about you,  but is much rather work hard for 5 years then 48! And each person is different! I achieved 5 figures a paycheck after less than a year and a half,  while working 5-10 hours a week…simply because I am very consistent and refuse to quit!

 

Another problem with quitting is it jeopardized your reputation for another business. I see it all the time! People jump from company to company, and I know it’s cause they didn’t put in the work because many of those company have amazing products and compensation plan.  It makes people not trust you, and definitely nervous to partner with you as their leader.  What if they get started and you abandon them?? Think of it like this, if you sell insurance and tell your friends it’s the best ever, so they buy! Then you switch to another company, and say it’s the best. Then switch to another! You lose their trust and their business. Before switching companies, always make sure to give it enough time, make sure YOU are putting in the work, and do the trainings! Most companies have a training plan available.

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At the end of the day, it usually comes down to how much you are treating a work from home business, as a JOB! Of course some companies are truly bad, but don’t worry, the Federal Trade Commission is going after those! The main reason people quit is because they think the grass is greener somewhere else. Nope! The grass is greener where you water it! I’m happy with my company and earn a 6 figure income, but I also know friends in other companies earning the same. Its all about how much you water your grass as to how tall it’s going to go. Don’t quit, just work harder!!

 

 

 

Dana

Bless This Mess

Before having kids, I felt I led a very busy life! I usually worked more than one job, and if I wasn’t working, then I was also taking college classes. My schedule was crazy and I remember going months without a day off. I thought I was the busiest person in the world. And then I had kids!! Now my favorite moto is Bless this mess as that is what my life is most days!

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Bless This Mess

It’s so funny how your life changes in so many different ways when you have kids! Gone where the days of working two jobs, now I had one job…MOM! And that one was a lot of work!! I added in 2 more kids, a college degree, and working from home. The schedule I thought was busy before having kids, looks like a vacation to my schedule now haha! On top of all I do as a Mom and owning a business, I also suffer from an autoimmune disease which causes me to be sick often, and exhausted daily. So how do Mom’s like myself balance everything??? This is a question I get daily!

 

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  1. I’m a big list maker! I do this every week and it helps me look at what is on the list and decide what really needs to get done, and what is just a “want”. The “wants” normally keep getting pushed back on the list as I have learned to focus on the most important items.
  2. Plug in to self development and training. As a work from home Mom, it can be hard to stay motivated! I have a great team of people I work with and we do multiple training’s a week. This helps me stay on track, plus I keep an accountability sheet to log my hours of work each week. As a work from home Mom, sometimes you can find the whole week has gone by and you haven’t actually “worked”…it’s easy to do with as busy as Mom’s are!
  3. Ask for help! Before my autoimmune disease, I use to handle everything. Since then I have learned to ask my husband for help more. I’ve learned it’s ok to have a babysitter sometimes! I’ve learned I don’t have to do it all myself! Now my husband and I split the chorus around the house, which is a huge help for me!
  4. Learn to say NO! This is a big one for me. When I get asked to do something, my response is usually “Yes” and now, I have learned if I am tired, have too much going on, or just don’t want to, it’s ok to say “NO”!! Especially with an autoimmune disease. Most people have no clue what that is, how it effects me, or how severe it can get! I’ve learned I don’t need to explain myself, if I’m too tired, overwhelmed, or know something would be too much for me, I know say NO! Sure some people get mad, but at the end of the day my health comes at the top of my priority list as my kiddos need a healthy Mom!
  5.  Focus on what you can control. So many things in life are out of our control, and I have learned to dump those things in a file cabinet in my brain, close it, and let it go! If you can’t control it, don’t let it control you! Instead focus on the things in your life and business you do have control over! It’s a freeing feeling to know what you can control!
  6. Make time for fun! I’m very bad at this as I give 100% and then have little left for me. I’m learning to have a day where I don’t leave the house. Pull out a good book! Go do something I really enjoy. Make time for fun! Life is too short! I recently added on to my back porch and have a huge patio where I love to sit and read while my kids play outside. Normally I would use that time for work, which I still do some, but I also have one day where I just do what I want (within limit of course since I have 3 kids).
  7. Have a supportive tribe! This is so important I found! You need people who don’t judge you, believe in you, and will support you no matter what you are going through! I love knowing I have people I can go to for anything and they will be there for me. It’s a blessing to have wonderful friends and if you have toxic ones, cut those suckers out ASAP!

 

Those are just a few of my tips on how I manage life with being a busy Mom and business woman. I think the main key is balance! You never want to be too busy that you forget to have a life, but you also want to reach your goals!! It’s a process no one has perfected, and most people keep adjusting! I know my schedule is constantly changing…and with 3 kids home all summer it will change again. But I wouldn’t trade this crazy life for anything! Bless this mess!

Dana

Paleo Cupcakes

When I went paleo, the hardest part for me was the lack of dessert! I can eat grilled chicken and veggies all day long…as long as at the end of the day I get a small dessert. It’s all about moderation after all! So I began hunting for a good dessert. The problem was, many paleo recipes require strange ingredients you have no clue where to buy, or they take a lot of time to make. OR….they taste really gross haha. After hunting around, I finally found a good one! It’s a lemon paleo cupcake!! It easy to make, uses normal ingredients, and you can make a lot and freeze them (anything I can freeze and have later is a big winner in my book!) My favorite way to have these is with strawberries! It reminds me a lot of strawberry shortcake!

 

Give them a try and let me know what you think!!

Paleo Cupcakes

Ingredients

  • 1 Cup Coconut Flour ( I don’t recommend substituting this, I tried and it did not turn out well!)
  • 1 Teaspoon Baking Soda
  • 1/2 Teaspoon Salt
  • 8 Eggs
  • 1 Cup Honey (I like to melt it a little, makes it mix better!)
  • ½ Cup Melted Coconut Oil
  • Juice Of Two Lemons
  • 1 Teaspoon Vanilla Extract

Directions

  1. Preheat the over to 350 degrees.
  2. Mix the flour, baking soda, and salt together.
  3. Combine the oil, honey, vanilla, eggs, and lemon juice in a bowl using a hand mixer.
  4. Slowly add the liquid to the flour mixture. Keep mixing until all the clumps are gone. You may have to turn the mixer up and it will be thick.
  5. Spray a muffin pan with coconut oil ( I did not have good results using cupcake liners!)
  6. Fill the tins half way full with the mixture.
  7. Cook for approximately 20 minutes, check, and then cook for longer. The muffins should turn dark on the top when finished.

 

These freeze really well and are wonderful served with strawberries! Perfect healthy treat for the summer!

Dana